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February 21, 2015

When Cheating Husband Demands Sex From His Wife.

My overriding desire is, and has always been, to help you experience the power of prayer in turning around your cheating and lying husband. This should naturally lead you to enjoy a faithful, reformed husband in a peaceful, exciting and godly marriage.

My confidence has not only been in what God said but in many wonders He has done through me in this direction -- amazing turnarounds of almost lost husbands. God is faithful.

One of the principal products of prayer is revelation (that is, special understanding or insight) on your challenges or puzzles of life. However, it’s only when you act on what is revealed that you get what you asked. That’s what is called wisdom – knowing what next to do to get to where you desire, and doing it!

(Matt 7:24 – Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock)

How could my husband expect me to have sex with him when I know he is also sleeping with another woman?

Going by several questions from many of our friends hitting my email in the past few months, I share here the biblical wisdom on cheating husbands who return to their wives time and again, making that move for sex.

Before we continue, I want to remind you (it may sound like warning!) that what we suggest here is not common sense or academic solution. We presume that majority of those who read this ezine are Christian wives; so biblical (or divine) wisdom is the route to the change we pray for.

Expectedly, our position may be very different from what the psychologist, non-Christian marriage counsellor, human rights advocate or even your respected friend might offer. We do not expect non-christians to believe the way we do.

(1 Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness to him: neither can he know [them], because they are spiritually discerned).

That said and noted…

  Perhaps you've been praying over your husband’s immoral ways but he's not changed yet. He's here at home today with you and gone to her tomorrow. And you know he’s obviously sleeping with her.

  Then he comes home again one night, feeling you and wanting you.


What do you do?


Is it not insensitive of him to seek intimacy with you while he’s also having sex with another woman? How are you supposed to feel doing it, or afterwards? Surely it would be absolute torture…feeling used and expended. More so, you are never going to be in the mood for sex with him while he’s also doing it with her…what with all the risk of STDs and other infections?

These are very sound reasons not to share your bed with him until he stops (and you confirm he has stopped) his adultery. Then be tested to show a clean bill of health…

Sure you've heard this line of thinking before?

Anyone with common sense will suggest this line of treatment.

But this is not a matter for common sense – it calls for wisdom…the wisdom of God.

What Does God Say On The Matter.

Prov 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Jas 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all [men] liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

If you've been praying and asking God to intervene and change your unfaithful husband because you love him and want to succeed in marriage, then that suggestion (to refuse him until...) is not for you.

  The question should be what does God say on his demand for your body?

1Cor 7:4-5 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.


I have seen many marriages quickly destroyed as a result of thoughtless decisions regarding the sexual relationship. It's either there is no sex in marriage (for whatever reason) or there is much sex outside marriage.

  Now, hear this…

There may be a few grounds not to have sex with your husband when he makes the move but don’t refuse him sex just because he’s cheating on you. Resist every objecting voice within you and allow him!

What HasThis Got To Do With Praying For The cheating Husband’s Turn Around?

I say everything.

The answer to most prayers comes after obeying instructions (revelation, understanding and wisdom). When you refuse instructions like this one, you have refused your answer as well.

Natural submission to your husband’s sex advances is one of such wisdom and it’s in the best interest of your marriage to have your husband showing sexual interest in you.

  Your cheating husband’s sex advances to you – if not resolved quickly – could make your prayers weak and unproductive. It will also clog your conscience and compound your relationship challenges with him, pushing him farther away.

  It’s a righteous prayer to ask for grace to do the wisdom of God – if you can’t bring yourself to do as revealed.

Making The Most Out Of Cheating Husband’s Sex Needs.

Sex is a very important measure of a healthy marriage. The more sex in marriage, the better the couple become at resolving their marital challenges on their own. When there’s no sex in a marriage, you’ll find tension, misunderstanding and arguments on regular basis.

  That’s why you ought to consider your husband’s sex moves a good ground for recovery, and a God-given tool for his full return to you.

What About His Other Women?

I know… I know, it hurts but you are not a fool to receive him when he comes around, no matter what others may say.

  Believe this, sex is the principal weapon the other woman is using to keep him. The more you refuse him, the more effective the weapon in the other woman’s hands.

  My suggestion is for you to make love to him with your full concentration and wow him as only you can! If your feelings are likely to get in the way, pray, you’ll be amazed how timely the prayer would be answered.

What if the husband doesn’t make the move?

Take the driver’s seat! And if you are refused, don’t despair, try again another time. After all he’s your husband and there’s no shame in wanting your husband to love you.

Now Say Something…

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