Counseling a cheating husband could save a marriage from ridicule and divorce. An effective counseling session would make him say why he's cheating. It would therefore help to address that issue and and nudge him towards more commitment to his marriage.
other challenges of marriage, the real measure of counseling a cheating husband
is how soon he starts to change for
the better after the session. More than that, the expectation from counseling is a renewed commitment to their marriage. In other words, counseling didn’t
work if the desired change didn’t happen… or is short-lived.
Most cheating husbands know that they are not living right but they think they are justified or pushed into it. Some blame their wives, others claim they are happier living the immoral life.
is a common error with most wives to seek marriage counselor who would ‘talk
sense into’ their unfaithful husband. This error often creates resistance from
the husband. The couple should discuss and agree on where, who and when of
counseling. It is the duty of the counselor, not a party, to determine who
needs to do what in the marriage.
course, the wife may initiate the need for counseling, and would most likely
suggest a Christian counselor but she should also ensure the counselor is
someone the husband respects. Someone he could connect with, reason with, and
agree with. Hasty choice of a counselor may doom the entire exercise, indeed
make matters worse.
Marriage involves a man and his wife playing complementary roles for the good of the family. It is not just about counseling a cheating husband because he’s living dirty. So, any counseling that assumes (for whatever reason) that until one party changes, all other things will not seat well, is misplaced and would have little or no result.
Counseling in marriage also involves the pre-decision of the parties to cooperate and workout whatever counsel that will be offered at the meeting. Also, the husband and wife must understand that the counseling is:
· Not a court, there is no such thing as forced appearance, judgment
· Largely, marriage counseling is plan to overcome challenges of the past,
so as to move on smoothly and faithfully
· Key results of counseling in marriage is improving communication and
· Successful counseling results in win-win for the couple and their
marriage, no one should leave counseling in regret and feeling of defeat
· Both have responsibilities to work the decisions of the counseling
· After counseling, there is no provision for fault-finding or recall of
a ready heart prepared by targeted prayers, the counseling would just be a mere
on its own cannot be relied on to change a cheating husband. Marriage is God’s
idea; so it’s God that will give the right counsel to help. Cheating,
infidelity, adultery, unfaithfulness…has its start in the spirit. Therefore, it
is in the spiritual that answers can be found. That’s why I conduct a free
direct online prayers to wives of cheating husbands in our ‘Help Me In Prayer!’
What this means is that counseling without prayers has no real power to penetrate or make sense. Prayer is the energizer of counseling…it even works ahead of counseling because it softens the heart for right words.
prayers for the success of the counsel is crucial. It should be said before,
and continued after. It is not the words spoken that make sense during
counseling a cheating husband, but the state of the heart of the couple being
counseled. So the prayers for counseling should cover the key areas of:
· The heart or commitment of the couple.
· The day of counseling
· The words and person of the counselor
The sense, responsibility and commitment to the counsel.
we have focused on counseling a cheating husband, it should be known that his
wife also have some personal changes to make to help the result. But by far, her
biggest responsibility is the prayer function.
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