Why Hate The Husband?
For a wife to hate the husband, she must
have been through some bad stuff from him – most of them unspeakable. After all
she married him, and you don’t marry someone you hate.
So, how did love turn to hate?
This change of emotions, most often, is brought
about by the husband’s attitude. A drastic change in behavior or
discontinuation of a desirable attitude is the seed for a wife to hate the
The Seed of Hate
we said earlier, the husband sparks off the hate emotions in his wife through
many of his actions.
- Lack of
Love and Affection. The husband that allows his love and affection for the wife
to go cold has started a war in his home. This is one attitude the wife is
bound to reciprocate, though slowly but surely. The man that loves his wife and
shows it does himself a lot of good. Love
and affection is communicated by words, romance and deeds.
Infidelity. An unfaithful man is not likely to retain his wife’s respect
for long. To a woman, infidelity means insult, betrayal, and rejection. These
are enough for any woman to hate the husband.
- Lies and
Deception. This is closely related to infidelity because it is often used
to cover up. But it goes beyond that to include business, investment and social
concealments from the wife.
A man that hits his wife is surely asking for some hard reactions from her.
Emotions of Hate.
Hate emotions in women may be slow to develop but the
manifestation is usually extreme and spontaneous. The Bible said, “It is better
to live in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman” Proverbs 21: 19
Which are the common means women show anger and hatred?
- Write a
Letter. The use of a letter is to put on record their grievance fully
without interruption. When a woman writes her husband (living with her) a
letter on matters in their home, it is a warning sign that her frustration has
reached the peak.
on her Husband. Some women want revenge on their husbands as soon as they
feel the hurt. Revenge is most often in line (perhaps not proportionate) with
whatever wrong the husband has done. If the man cheated, they cheat; if he
overspends, they do same; if he hits them…
the Husband. An unfaithful husband would also deny the wife sex. Such a frustrated
wife would wish to stop him from philandering – through castration – if need
be! This seems wicked but she feels
justified because she is deprived.
- Kill The
Husband. Talk about the extreme but this is what many aggrieved women have
done in the past and many more would like to do. While the wife would desire
the husband dead they would not really want to do the dirty job themselves. They
may hope that something mortal befalls him and kills him.
Him. Some women may use diabolic spiritual means to control or deal with their husbands.
For a wife to hate the husband is sad enough but should
not lead to extreme, vengeful behavior. There is always a better option to sort
out a husband’s irresponsible behavior than taking the law in your hands.