Make Your Man Commit To Marriage
It’s boring to wait for months on your man to commit
to the relationship; more so when you feel the pressure of passing time and
younger, prettier girls coming up by the day. After all if a relationship is
flowing well should it not be taken to the next level?
But the mere thought of committing to marriage seems to
scare the peace out of most guys. They avoid the talk; if it comes, anyway,
they get angry (or pretend to be) and give the impression of being pressured. When
men feel good with the relationship, they want to stay at that level, never
willing to move up.
Excuses He Could Be Using To Avoid Committing To You
What they seem to say from this attitude is:
- We have something good going, why interrupt it?
- I love you as you are but you are no good for
the next level of my life
- There is still plenty of time to find out more
of each other
I’m scared of marriage responsibility
It is at this stage that the girls also make the mistake
that strike a death blow at the relationship. Sometimes great relationships
have been ruined because the girl can’t tell where they are headed.
Relationship studies show that some inspiration and prodding are necessary for man to
commit and move things forward.
Let’s examine some attitudes that have the greatest chances
of steering the relationship to your most desired goal.
- Do Not
Pressure Your Man To Commit. You don’t want him to commit just because
you twisted his arm (or his heart) I could imagine you saying, he’s already
taken so much for granted and it’s now or never. If this is the case, it’s war
and you’ll soon regret any bond under this condition. Pressure includes
knowingly getting pregnant believing he’ll have no choice than to cave in. It is in your
best interest is to make him want to
Issue Threats Or Give Deadline. If you are really into this relationship,
don’t do this; it’s a high risk attitude that may quickly part you. What if he
calls your bluff? Will you eat your words and return to him, or pick up yourself proudly
and move on with your life? Decide what your response to the outcome would be
before you issue your order.
Him That He Would Enjoy You Better When He Commits. Some men are scared
that they would become restricted or controlled when they get married. Of
course, there are rules of engagement but you also enjoy freedom in
marriage. What they are scared of may be your personality, career
or education, your domineering family, your taste and style etc. He fears
things may become unmanageable if he commits. By words and actions, find means
to assure him that he will be in charge and that you will be a true wife.
Make Him Feel Married When He’s Not. There are things he should have and
enjoy when you get married, don’t let him have it all at no price. This does
not only apply to sex and intimacy but other privileges of committed
relationships also. Some have thought that you have to do as much to convince
him to commit but that’s rather counterproductive. Many have so labored to
‘convince’ their guys for years only for the man to commit to another
girl he barely met.
- Play The
Scarcity Game. Reduce time spent hanging around him or doing things with
(or for) him. Travel when you have to, see other friends and family more, take a course or
dive into that abandoned hobby of yours – anything that will reduce the time
spent with him and make him see you more in his mind’s eye. Let him reach out
hungrily for you! Miracles happen here…the expected could happen!
What if you do your best and wait long
yet he does not talk the Talk? Well, you can't wait all your life on one man who cannot make up his mind. You have to be
on your way to who truly deserves you for the long stretch. No woman should entreat
her to man to commit to a relationship.
Where Is Your Guy On This?
Well, what do you think about men forever evading commitment? Do you have a success story others could model? Or were you frustrated out of a relationship on account of a clueless guy who was taking forever to decide?
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